balance and progress


This photo’s a little dark and blurry; it’s hard to photograph kids on scooters when you’re already significantly behind them. I’m trying to capture Rachel coasting on this downhill stretch, with her right leg up off the ground. She’s completely balancing on her left leg for several yards at a time.

This is a big deal.

These scooters have been a source of frustration since we got them for Christmas almost 2 years ago. When Rachel and Claire realized there was more to it than just hopping on and taking off, they were all, “No thanks!” They wanted to ride them, but got frustrated when they couldn’t keep up with their little sister. It’s been hard not to play the comparison game. For all of us.

The girls are making great strides in occupational therapy. Their balance and strength is improving; I just need to make more effort to work with them at home. Every morning like clockwork I ask Claire if she wants to ride her scooter to school, and she says no. She’d rather walk than deal with the frustration of not being able to keep up. She’ll come around some day, probably when she doesn’t want to be left behind as her friends and sisters ride around the neighborhood. I don’t know.

Since we’ve realized that the problem was mostly physical and not simply lack of determination (although the physical aspects led to the lack of determination), I’ve calmed down little bit. I let them do things at their own pace. I’m their cheerleader, not their coach, because when it comes down to it, I am a terrible coach.

But for now, this photo is progress. This photo is encouragement. This photo is pretty damn badass.

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    1. I love that she’s making these choices because she’s growing more confident in her abilities. It’s a gem to watch them grow like this.

  1. Opting out of the comparison game can be one of parenting’s biggest challenges.
    Not just between your own kids but with other people’s kids, too.

    Oh yeah and with ourselves as adults. Ugh. Take about a dark and blurry view.
    Looks like you’re handling it marvelously.

    Badass mama.

    1. I had to literally force myself not to hold their first ever kindergarten report cards side by side for comparison. Because they are completely different kids (shocker)! But on the flip side, if I didn’t have a younger daughter who was adept and confident and agile, I may not have ever noticed that there was something lacking. 🙂

  2. Matching my (physical, emotional, mental) pace with my kids’ in order to help and understand their needs is one of my biggest challenges as a mother. Many parents don’t ever get this. You are doing a great job.

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